Question 739 - The Enlightening Answer Across the Ether, Vol 7

Ahmed al-Hasan Response:

The wife’s benefit belongs to her, and she may do with it as she wishes. The husband has no right to question her about it, and his obligation to support her does not lapse; rather, he must support her. The benefits of children who have not reached puberty belong to them, and the father may administer spending them upon the children, but he must make up any shortfall in their support. This is the religious ruling. May Allah grant you success and set your affairs aright. I ask you to deal with one another with mercy, affection, and reconciliation. You are a family, a husband, and a wife; you are not a business company such that your dealings should be material. The husband must fulfill his duty toward his wife and children with love and contentment, and the wife should be good, affectionate, and forgiving toward her husband. I believe that a woman can generally build her family and home and attain her husband’s satisfaction through calmness and a good word, and thereby attain Allah’s satisfaction. In general, even if the husband mistreats or falls short toward his family, the wife can treat him with goodness and mercy and seek through this the satisfaction of Allah, Glorious and Exalted, first and last. What is with Allah remains and grows, Allah willing, and you will see its fruit-the correct word is ‘fruit’-in this world and the Hereafter. Ahmed Alhasan